On Sunday evening i called Bitboy and we spoke for about 45 mins. In that time he explained everything to me, and i believe what he said. He made a post this morning and tried to explain it (it'll be better coming from him) but his father came in when he was only half finished and took away the laptop.
But basically his family and a fucked-up counsellor ganged up on him and made him believe he was a predator and a paedophile, that by coming to see me he'd be ruining both our lives, and that he was taking advantage of me, and that what we had between us meant nothing. They then made him say goodbye to me, and when i replied, wouldn't let him reply. Anyways it's complicated and it's his story so it's better if when he gets an opportunity to post the full story, you hear it from him.
I'm going with what just feels right, and hoping by some miracle that things work out.
I'd like to keep this untitled.
14 years ago
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mboy it must be hell for the both of you...i'm sorry that bitboy's folks have come between the two of you like this, but have faith man
oh n btw if he goes to uni/college then he could try n tty on there comps
hugs
Peace:)
whats the age of consent over there our of curiosity?
I'm glad things are better, and I like your advice to go with what feels right for now.
Much Love,
Steve
Good luck mboy.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jOBcwJbKOdY
Wishing you the best.
I believe what Bitboy says, because that's about what I thought was going on.
I don't see how a visit from him will ruin your lives. If you were to drop out of school and run away with him, that could ruin your life. But a cyber relationship with an occasional visit is different.
I assume your mum knows about this, and as long as she's cool with it, I wouldn't worry too much about what the counsellor told him. But I hope you'll try to remember that you really are quite young and you have a long life ahead of you, so you don't need to rush into things. You can take time to savor getting to know him, to building up a relationship, to allowing your infatuation to develop into the sort of love Steevo and Dan have. For now, though, it's not going to be easy for him to live with the opposition he's getting from his parents.
You're just beginning; and I wish you all the best.
See, it was not you, and you're not at fault. Unfortunately, and sadly, these sort of things seem to happen, and other than offering him your support and love, there really isn't much you can do, to be frank.
Perhaps one day things will work out and he will "escape" or whatever he can do, but in the meantime you can't beat yourself up over it.
*more hugs*
Hooray!
I am sooooo relieved my gut feeling was correct. I do NOT mean that in an "I told you so" way, however! I mean that in an "I am absolutely ecstatic for you!" way.
I'm glad you were able to hear the truth from Bitboy. I had said in my comment on your last post that something didn't seem right, that he seemed forced since no one goes from love to neutrality in just a few hours (unless something REALLY bad happened).
Next time, take a deep breath, and think that if something doesn't seem right, it probably isn't and there's probably a reason for it. I hope everything works out for the both of ya. :-)
<3 *hugs*
@planetx - The age of consent is 16.
wow. I can't believe what bitboy's parents are doing to him. I've heard stories about this, but I've never seen it happen. My prayers go out to you and bitboy.
m/b, Good news in at least the bubble hasn't burst and that you still love each other, and may even still meet up.
My concern is that at the grand age of 19 (there was I thinking bitboy was about 16) how is it that his folks, especially his Father has got some sort of a vice like grip on your b/f. Perhaps the family is still paying him through College. Something is clearly still keeping him at home.
If my Dad treated me that way I would simply walk away and disown him. I know of others who have. And it's usually the bigoted Dads rather than the sympathetic Moms that cause the problems.
As for the family councellor trying to redirect him to straightsville, well he clearly isn't a proper practitioner. It's humanly and biologically impossible to convert from bi or gay to 100% straight. Even religious fanatics have tried that one. All people can do is 'Pretend' just to keep their families happy if they choose to. But they pay the price for the mental and emotional pressure of living a lie.
Anywayz enjoy the School hols. (Haha.. saves me e-mailing you now).
Hugz xxx
D.
If Bitboy were a much, much older person, I could almost comprehend the extreme reaction from the family - insane as it appears to be.
The counselor, on the other hand, should have known better than to act the way he did. In a way, it sounds as though he was doing the bidding of Bitboys family rather than any real counseling. There is a person who should really be reported as abusing his position.
Be strong and hope for the best.
I'll post it here, dad saw my blog address in the internet history, has had a look and has now taken my phone lol no matter what he is not stopping me contacting you mboy, i love you too much. Even without internet, a phone or any other means of contact, im sticking with mboy through thick and thin. Nobody is getting me out of this ;) I cant wait till next week when i escape these homophobes :)
Mirrorboy!
So I caught up on the whole story now and read BitBoy's explanation on his own blog.
Personally, I'm not concerned about the age thing. You're both teens after all. And just being boyfriends doesn't necessarily mean the two of you will have to engage in sex right away.
BitBoy's family is blowing all of this way out of proportion. It has less to do with you and I'm guessing it's the fact that BitBoy is gay that's really bothering them.
The counselor is a complete mess. Counselor's are supposed to help you NOT bring you down.
Hopefully BitBoy can get away from that environment and actually spread his wings.
Hang in there, Mirrorboy!
You and BitBoy have more time than you realize. You're both quite young! Why do you have to meet each other right at this minute? Will the world end if you wait a few more months? No, it won't.
You two need to relax and take your time! Don't rush things!! It's when you rush that you often fuck things up.
The very best of luck to the the both you!!
-Dean
mboy
Man i am happy there i a reason to all of us. Yo are a special guy and i hope smooths ut for you soon
Please dont always think its you being rejected because you are so nice and beautifl its not alway going to be you my friend
If you need anything plese let me know. take are and be safe
bob
sounds like a sailor moon episode.
@Kevin: I don't know about Oz, but in the USA there are plenty of organizations that offer "counselling" to turn gay folks straight. It's totally unethical and harmful, but some people will stop at nothing to either "fix" their children or get "fixed" themselves, and these organizations prey upon them.
Why are people telling him he's a pedophile? Because your 16? If that's the reason, and if Australia's age of consent is over 16, well, yea, it is illegal for him to be doing anything with you.
In order to prevent him from getting in trouble with the law, keep it on a friends only basis...until that time that your legal.
OMFG. he got CAUGHT!? and they confiscated his lappytopsy?! that is embarrassment beyond the rainbow! seriously fucked up! lock the doors next time! jeez!
Huh, one can't say you have an easy life, I wish you strenghth to bear all this, much love.
A couple more things for you to have in mind.
For every Steevo and Dan, there are lots of AJ and Matts. In other words, there is no guarantee that this will work out, but if it doesn't, it isn't the end of the world, as much as it may hurt. Don't feel desperate. Be realistic.
The latest post from Bitboy sounds a bit over the top. I mean, to be as passionate as he sounds about someone he's never met and to be so desperate to meet you *now* seem like unusually strong feelings under the circumstances. The advice to everyone meeting an internet acquaintance for the first time applies to you to: be cautious.
And pulling it out of the subordinate clause where I first dropped it: make sure your mum knows all about this before it happens. She's your best friend and she's proven she's on your side. Don't forfeit her trust by hiding this from her.
<3
MB, stick with him see what pans out, from reading his part of his blog it seems he is very much in love with you and remorseful. I bet he will be hanging around the internet cafe's lol
Good luck
Be Safe
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